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Wedding FAQs

Frequently Asked Questions and General Information

Below you will find information and common questions – remember, if you need anything else or have additional questions don’t hesitate to contact us at info@butterflyhollow.com or 615-784-8551

How do I hold and confirm a wedding date? To hold a wedding or vow renewal date/package we require a 50% deposit. This deposit can be paid by check, PayPal, Venmo, or credit card. Once you have requested a date we will send you an email with the details of your wedding package and the deposit amount. At that time please indicate your preferred method of payment. Once your deposit has been received, we’ll follow up with an email confirmation/receipt to include links to some additional helpful wedding planning web pages. The balance for your wedding package will be due 60 days before your arrival date or the agreed upon date on your invoice.
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What is the limit on number of guests for your weddings?
All of our wedding packages have a predetermined number of guests included in the base price. For a nominal fee of $15.00 per guest you can add guests to each package as long as your guest count does not exceed 30. This limit is primarily due to our insurance guidelines, but also the intimate nature of our hollow and size of the farmhouse. We wish we could share Butterfly Hollow with more of your family and friends, but having this comfortable number will help keep your wedding celebration simple, personal and stress free. Your photographer does not count towards your guest count. If you select our Butterfly Hollow Celebration package and your photographer’s contract states a meal must be provided, he/she will need to be calculated into your dinner count.
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Do children count as guests? Yes. An infant under 2 would be the only exception.
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Does our wedding package include a gratuity? No. Dave and Beth Ann do not believe an automatic gratuity should be added to any of their packages. They believe it should be a decision left up to you based on the level of service received and the overall satisfaction of having your special day at Butterfly Hollow. A service charge is applied to all wedding packages but not considered a gratuity.
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Can we provide our own music for the wedding? Absolutely! You are more than welcome to bring your favorite music on a downloadable playlist. We have a portable sound system you can use via Bluetooth. If you do not have any musical preferences we have a wide variety of instrumental music for the ceremony. If you have reserved the Intimate Hollow Wedding or Celebration package you might also like to consider hiring a live musician for your ceremony. Violin, guitar, or cello are truly magical.
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What will we do if it rains? For weddings at Butterfly Hollow, we can still have a beautiful, cozy ceremony on the covered wrap around porch of the farmhouse or in our open air barn.
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Can we bring champagne/alcohol for our reception? Sure. Due to local laws and regulations we currently cannot sell or provide alcohol. Since this is a private function, you are more than welcome to bring your own beer, wine and/or champagne. If you desire a full bar you must hire a licensed bar service through Butterfly Hollow.
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Can a family member video our wedding? Most definitely!! We do recommend the professional services of Colby Mac Productions but not required. Please email or call for additional information on their Butterfly Hollow Specials.
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 Can we have a unity candle in our ceremony? We would like the ceremony to be a reflection of you and your love story. If you would like to include any of the wedding traditions, such as a Unity Candle, Sand Ceremony, or add something a little non-traditional – that would be wonderful.  Since most of our weddings are outside, we do recommend you keep this in mind when using candles.
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Are there other local accommodations for our guests? Yes, there is a local hotel ten minutes away, several B&Bs, rental cabins and state parks close by. Several standard chain hotels to choose from are within a 25 minute drive in Lebanon. Once your reservation has been confirmed, we will send you more information and contact phone numbers for some of these lodging alternatives in our confirmation email. You are welcome to add our bed and breakfast rooms for family and friends if you desire.
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Is there a restaurant close by that we could take our wedding guests to? There is a wonderful restaurant called The Timberloft, which is ten minutes away from the Hollow. It has a warm, rustic lodge feel, a lounge, patio dining and a menu filled with delicious entrees. For a southern dining experience we recommend Mo’Cara’s. Located in Lebanon, Tennessee Mo’Cara’s features fine southern cuisine and creative interpretations of classic southern foods.

There are few others listed on our area attractions page.
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Where do the Innkeepers of Butterfly Hollow live? Dave, Beth Ann, and their family live nearby. Dave, who is the master chef of the family slips into the Hollow usually early in the morning and begins breakfast preparations while guests are slowly waking to the smell of fresh coffee. The Innkeepers pride themselves in providing a relaxing atmosphere and encouraging heartfelt conversation, but also in letting their guests feel like they can be alone and enjoy the Hollow, listen to the birds, and find solitude in nature.
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Can we say our own vows? Most certainly. If you would like to include any special prayer, traditions or non-traditions into your ceremony, that would be wonderful. We want your wedding to be a reflection of the two of you. We do have a list of many sample vows and ceremony ideas, if you would like a little inspiration, which we also include in the confirmation email.
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Can our minister perform the ceremony? Yes. You are welcome to have your own officiant perform the service. In order for the ceremony to be legal through the state of Tennessee, you must of have a licensed individual such as an elected official, county clerk, or ordained minister through a religious organization. All of our wedding packages, where the minister or officiant is provided by Butterfly Hollow, are legally binding and will be filed in the county where you received your marriage license within three days of your wedding.
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Do you provide any wedding favors ? You would be welcome to bring along any gifts you would like to share with your family and friends. We do sell Butterfly Hollow coffee mugs, wine glasses, or T-Shirts which can be supplied with ample notice. We only carry a limited supply on property.
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Are there any local beauty salons so I can have my hair/makeup done? Yes. There are a few salons and beauty shops within a ten minute drive. The confirmation email you receive after your reservation is made will list all of them along with their contact numbers so you can make an appointment.
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Do high heels work well for outside weddings? Heels can be a bit challenging, especially if the ground is soft or wet. Wedges work the best, though we have had many brides wear sandals, flip flops, cowboy boots, or go barefoot. If high heels are a must, then you might need to pack along a little sense of humor too, or perhaps bring along some comfy shoes to walk around in and then slip into your heels at the wedding spot.
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